Comments on: “They Didn’t Take Me Seriously”: A Depressing Yet Reoccuring Truth of Domestic Violence http://www.outagainstabuse.com/2008/03/11/44/ Act Out, Speak Out, Reach Out Fri, 21 Nov 2008 14:07:39 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.1 By: To Radhika http://www.outagainstabuse.com/2008/03/11/44/#comment-89 To Radhika Tue, 18 Mar 2008 17:01:28 +0000 http://www.outagainstabuse.com/2008/03/11/44/#comment-89 50% is a big much, don't you think? What 'research' are you loooking at? Do you mind sharing? Not to undermine the fact that men are often victims as well, but the percentages are MUCH MUCH lower than that of women. 50% is a big much, don’t you think? What ‘research’ are you loooking at? Do you mind sharing? Not to undermine the fact that men are often victims as well, but the percentages are MUCH MUCH lower than that of women.

]]> By: Radhika http://www.outagainstabuse.com/2008/03/11/44/#comment-85 Radhika Tue, 18 Mar 2008 02:45:11 +0000 http://www.outagainstabuse.com/2008/03/11/44/#comment-85 Hi friends, I think there is an overemphasis on women always being victims. We should remember that women can also be the cause of domestic violence. I had a friend who would start physical abuse and her husband ultimately was blamed wrongly. Eventually she got counseling and took anger management classes, but her rageaholic temperament never went away. Research indicates that upto 50% of domestic abuse incidents are perpetrated by women. Hi friends,
I think there is an overemphasis on women always being victims. We should remember that women can also be the cause of domestic violence. I had a friend who would start physical abuse and her husband ultimately was blamed wrongly. Eventually she got counseling and took anger management classes, but her rageaholic temperament never went away. Research indicates that upto 50% of domestic abuse incidents are perpetrated by women.

]]> By: Sleeping with the Enemy http://www.outagainstabuse.com/2008/03/11/44/#comment-78 Sleeping with the Enemy Wed, 12 Mar 2008 17:53:00 +0000 http://www.outagainstabuse.com/2008/03/11/44/#comment-78 This would be another movie that should strike a chord with DV victims. I read somewhere that a group of friends was trying to help a girl identify herself as a victim but they didn't want to go and tell her that she was a victim. They were suggested to get her to watch this movie so that she could identify with the events. (Sorry I know this is completely off topic, but hey, I'm just trying to help) This would be another movie that should strike a chord with DV victims. I read somewhere that a group of friends was trying to help a girl identify herself as a victim but they didn’t want to go and tell her that she was a victim. They were suggested to get her to watch this movie so that she could identify with the events.

(Sorry I know this is completely off topic, but hey, I’m just trying to help)

]]> By: Sylheti Konya http://www.outagainstabuse.com/2008/03/11/44/#comment-77 Sylheti Konya Wed, 12 Mar 2008 17:50:04 +0000 http://www.outagainstabuse.com/2008/03/11/44/#comment-77 No, I'm not Sylheti Konya, but some of you probably remember the movie titled Sylheti Konya by Humayun Ahmed which dealt with exactly this? One way of creating awareness about DV is through popular media - including screening of relevant films. Perhaps a screening of some of these movies among our communities would help spread the word (and while we're at it, let us come up with a list of movies in any language that deals with DV). No, I’m not Sylheti Konya, but some of you probably remember the movie titled Sylheti Konya by Humayun Ahmed which dealt with exactly this?

One way of creating awareness about DV is through popular media - including screening of relevant films. Perhaps a screening of some of these movies among our communities would help spread the word (and while we’re at it, let us come up with a list of movies in any language that deals with DV).

]]> By: Kathryn B. Ward http://www.outagainstabuse.com/2008/03/11/44/#comment-76 Kathryn B. Ward Wed, 12 Mar 2008 00:19:17 +0000 http://www.outagainstabuse.com/2008/03/11/44/#comment-76 Ruksana's story should be read relative to numerous BBC's reports from 3 March 2008 onwards on forced marriages, honour crimes and thousands of girls missing from their schools and fears that they have been forced into marriags abroad, in particular, Bradford schools. The government has promised investigations-task forces.... Meanwhile, this story should be placed within contested context of the pathbreaking Southall Black Sisters' programme-shelter in London, which has done much for educating and providing services for Black-Asian-Caribbean women on domestic violence and forced marriage has been threatened by funding cuts by the Ealing Council, who think they can streamline such services to one cultural perspective fits all. how would such streamlined services help some one like Ruksana or sensitize teachers and law enforcement? see http://www.southallblacksisters.org.uk/ please go to this website and act! or see for more suggestions http://pagolnari.blogspot.com/2008/02/southall-black-sisters-need-your.html Finally, many perps and dual passport holders of such crimes escape from usa-england and go back to their own countries...which have few or no laws-enforcement. Ruksana’s story should be read relative to numerous BBC’s reports from 3 March 2008 onwards on forced marriages, honour crimes and thousands of girls missing from their schools and fears that they have been forced into marriags abroad, in particular, Bradford schools. The government has promised investigations-task forces….

Meanwhile, this story should be placed within contested context of the pathbreaking Southall Black Sisters’ programme-shelter in London, which has done much for educating and providing services for Black-Asian-Caribbean women on domestic violence and forced marriage has been threatened by funding cuts by the Ealing Council, who think they can streamline such services to one cultural perspective fits all. how would such streamlined services help some one like Ruksana or sensitize teachers and law enforcement? see http://www.southallblacksisters.org.uk/
please go to this website and act!
or see for more suggestions http://pagolnari.blogspot.com/2008/02/southall-black-sisters-need-your.html

Finally, many perps and dual passport holders of such crimes escape from usa-england and go back to their own countries…which have few or no laws-enforcement.

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